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Step 12 – Recovered 900

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The Twelfth Step sums up our Twelve Step recovery program as a lifetime undertaking based on the practice of spiritual principles and service to others with the same addiction or compulsion.  Bill Wilson writes, “The joy of living is the theme of AA’s Twelfth Step, and action is its key word…Here we begin to practice all Twelve Steps of the program in our daily lives so that we and those about us may find emotional sobriety.”  The transforming power of the Twelve Steps is now focused on the whole of life, and the recovering alcoholic moves to a larger, more encompassing dimension: the world of the spirit.

 

What come first to mind?

Were you 12th stepped?

 

How do you do the 12th step?

 

What does the term “spiritual awakening” mean to you?

Have you had a spiritual awakening?  

How are you different than before program?

 

How does working the steps lead you to a spiritual awakening?

 

What message do you carry to the alcoholic who still suffers?  

Why is this important?

 

What 12 step work do you do?

What are the principles (Service is the 12th step principle) that we practice in all our affairs?

What service work do you do?

Why do you do it?

 

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How I Recovered From Hypervigilance – Article by Author Annie Highwater

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Are You Always on High Alert? How I Recovered From Hypervigilance

Like many I struggled for years with hypervigilance in group situations.  Therefore, I usually prefer solitude, or a small, safe crowd.

Hypervigilance brings about a state of increased anxiety. Other symptoms include: abnormally increased alertness, a high responsiveness to stimuli, and a constant scanning of the environment.

It has been a journey for me to rise from the ashes of trauma, dysfunction and chaos—in order to come to a place of peace and calm.

I couldn’t verbalize well to others what my internal struggle felt like until I began aggressively working to overcome it.  Basically, it was like having a mean voice interloping my own thoughts, always telling me to be afraid, to dread and to not ever forget I was lower than everyone around me.

This internal monologue was with me since I was a small child, often causing me to freeze or become awkward in social settings, while retreating inward—much to the confusion of those close to me.

Untangling from this thought process was one of the greatest hurdles of my life.

We can live in the mental stress of it for years. Always wondering who hates you, what you’ve done done wrong, and who might intentionally hurt you.

This was my life.  I was almost always on guard, overly self-conscious, while trying to discern who had the power in every setting, and what I could do, say, or not say to feel safe and at ease.

Which I rarely felt.

Traumatic stress, intense family criticism, dysfunction and conflict can make you feel like you are under siege at all times. For me, life at times felt like a tense walk across a tightrope.

It took serious work to recover from that codependent trap.

Heartache and intense misery (due to dysfunction and addiction crashing through my family a few years ago) led me to finally get fed up and sit down in the midst of my life—to seek healing and peace from trauma.

My goal was to finally deal with myself.  And then to recover and rise from the ashes, strong and whole.

Because hypervigilance is an after effect for many who have been traumatized or programmed into codependent behaviors, I am very often asked by others how one overcomes the internal dialogue and extreme alert feelings that come with it.

WHEN THIS IS YOUR BUILT IN WAY OF THINKING, HOW DO YOU RECOVER?

“When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”

What worked for me (recovery and growth are a process unique for everyone, there is no one-size fits all), first began when two therapists came into my life socially.

Initially I couldn’t believe they’d want to be friends with me, I felt like I was too nervous and damaged for anyone strong to respect in friendship. But they were kind and sensitive to the struggle of mind I was in.

They each made me feel safe and validated.

Simultaneously they worked to untangle me from the high stress frame of mind I was prone to slip into, which I learned always centered around pre-programmed fear and worthlessness.

For five years the two of them spoke truth, strength, worth and value to me.  Gradually I untangled from the mess I’d been and became stronger and more confident.

I became comfortable with kind, healthy introspection and ownership.

That was the beginning. Which prompted me to make an effort toward progress every day.

Sometime later, I took five months of allotted, specific self-supportive time to pause and reflect on all I’d been through.  Whether it happened to me or I caused it.

I took this time to journal about painful areas of life. I also read, researched, and did hard, soul searching work.

I was extremely self-protective during that time.

During those months I kept in touch with therapy experts, listened to relevant podcasts, watched Ted Talks and YouTube videos, read pertinent books and articles and I bought a dialectical behavioral therapy workbook.

I wanted to be healthy and well! I used every resource possible to heal.

And most important – every chance I got I went to support meetings and listened to others share their experiences and victory over similar struggles.

I also put space between myself and anyone who might be negative or potentially harmful.

When you are trying to get over things, it’s not the time to take on anyone else’s problems or personality issues.  Especially if you have a cast of dysfunctional characters in your life. Sometimes you have to take yourself away from everybody in order to process and heal.

Taking time for yourself to become healthy and strong is vital. It’s not selfish!  It’s healthy.

Not everyone goes through a gutting process to heal from what they’ve come from.  But life throws painful curve-balls to us all, at some point we all need to recover from something.

While maybe one thing works for someone, several things may be needed for someone else. I can’t advise any one route that fits.  You have to find what works for you.

What I do know for sure is that improving messy areas of life will require self-awareness, reflective soul-searching work, and KINDNESS.

Kindness toward yourself, and kindness from a few trusted people close to you.

Kindness added to truth is a powerful healer. 

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I compare recovery to the thought of turning a ship around. It takes time. It’s a process.

Recovering from trauma and dysfunctional pathology can feel like an autopsy and open heart surgery at once.  And then a complete rebuild of your internal hard drive.

I can say for myself, working on recovering is what worked.  I finally got free of the wreckage.

Though I can get triggered pretty quick – I can say this, hypervigilance does get better with work. It’s not something I regularly deal with anymore.  When I do it’s on a much smaller scale.

After doing the work, you start noticing certain things don’t happen anymore. Or if they do, they have a totally different effect.

Triggers become like flies whereas before they were like elephants.

The truth is, I come from a high degree of dysfunction.  Addiction, conflict and chaos have run amok through my life.  That’s part of who I am.  I will probably always have high-tuned awareness and a degree of ultra-sensitivity. But now it’s a more helpful, protective version.

These days I discern people, places and situations with wisdom in my favor, versus through a filter of fear and worthlessness.

And that for me is proof that recovery and rebuilding have taken place.

Freedom and peace from torment—is better than anything in my opinion!

know what it is to be feral and damaged, yet have support come along and treat you with enough respect, kindness and value to walk you out of your mess.

I also know the life-altering power of putting time and effort into oneself in order to overcome what has happened in your life.

A full recovery is possible for anyone.

Recovery works if you work it, you’re worth it—so work it!

Still learning,

Annie

Author of Unhooked

Book 2: Unbroken, Navigating the Madness of Family Dysfunction, Addiction, Alcoholism and Heartache” coming soon

Staying Sober on St. Patrick’s Day

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Thank you Caleb for this article. 

 

 

Six Ways to Stay Sober this St. Patrick’s Day

 

Holidays can be a difficult time for those in the midst of recovery from addiction. For recovering alcoholics, St. Patrick’s Day might seem like the kind of holiday that is best avoided altogether. However, making the decision not to drink doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t celebrate any traces of Irish heritage, and there is much more to Irish culture than drinking.

 

If you want to celebrate St. Patrick’s Day this year without giving up your sobriety, here are six ways you can have fun without picking up a single pint.

 

  1. Hang Out with the Right Crowd

 

The key to having a successfully sober St. Patrick’s Day is by choosing the right people to spend it with. We all have that group of friends who like to really turn things up during the holidays, and are likely going to want to do much of the same for the biggest drinking holiday of the year. While these friends are probably great to be around, they won’t do you any good when trying to stay sober for the holidays. This is why you probably shouldn’t follow your friends as they crawl from pub to pub. Sometimes, just being in the wrong environment can be enough to push us to make a decision we’ll later regret.

 

  1. Watch the Parade

 

Just because you’ve decided to stay away from the bars, doesn’t mean you can’t get out there and enjoy the holiday. It wouldn’t be St. Paddy’s Day without a loud and colorful parade rolling through your town. These kinds of public events are great to really soak in the spirit of the holiday without pouring a couple spirits yourself.

 

  1. Sign Up for a St. Paddy’s Day Run

 

Another staple for many cities all across America is some sort of St. Patrick’s Day run. Whether you are in shape, or on the path to better health, training for a race can be the perfect way to abstain from drinking while reaping the benefits of running. Signing up for a race on St. Patrick’s Day will give you a goal to work towards. As you focus your efforts on training for the race, you’ll have a good reason to stay away from bad habits and unhealthy behaviors.

 

  1. Attend a Concert or Event

 

While many point to drinking as the number one export of Ireland, there is still much more that the country has to offer. Irish culture is world-renowned for its musical heritage from catchy sing-along folk tunes, to modern punk-ballads. If you enjoy any form of live music, then you might consider attending one of the many public concerts or events dedicated to celebrating Irish culture. Singing along and tapping your toes to the music is a great way to celebrate the culture without depending on alcohol for a good time.

 

  1. Prepare Your Own Irish Supper

 

If you feel like avoiding heading out this year, there are a few ways you can enjoy St. Patrick’s Day from the comfort of your own home. One way to celebrate is by preparing your own big Irish-inspired dinner. There is no shortage of delicious Irish recipes that you can prepare such as corned beef and cabbage, shepherd’s pie and Irish stew.

 

  1. Throw Your Own Party

 

Since you’re already going through the effort of preparing a big Irish meal, why not invite a couple of close friends and host your own St. Patrick’s Day party? Hosting your own sober party allows you to enjoy the holiday your way, without the need for any alcoholic beverages. Make your own DIY decorations for your Shamrock-colored party so you can enjoy  the holiday with your BFFs.

 

Whether you decide to stay in or head out, there are many ways to enjoy St. Patrick’s Day without ever picking up an alcoholic beverage. Everyone deserves to have an exciting during a holiday.

 

Photo Credit: Pixabay.com

 

Call Recovered About Step 12

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MONDAY Night, the Recovery Topic is “Step 12.”

The Twelfth Step sums up our Twelve Step recovery program as a lifetime undertaking based on the practice of spiritual principles and service to others with the same addiction or compulsion. The transforming power of the Twelve Steps is now focused on the whole of life, and the recovering alcoholic moves to a larger, more encompassing dimension: the world of the spirit.

Let’s talk about this solution. Tap Speakpipe (preferred because the sound quality is excellent. Use this method especially if you are outside the Unites States) or call 1-734-288-7510 and answer the following question(s):

How do you carry the message of recovery?
What message do you carry to the alcoholic who still suffers?
Why is this important to your program?
What 12 step work do you do?

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Recovered 898 – Chuck C New Pair of Glasses Part 6

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What It Used To Be Like In Recovery – Recovered 898

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Tonight, we will explore recovery in terms of how it used to be like when we were new

 

All of us have been around a while

All of us have seen changes in meetings

We have seen changes in way people are sponsored

All of us have seen changes in how addictions have influenced meetings

All of us have seen how recovery centers have influenced recovery language and behavior

All of us have seen how the court system has influenced meetings

 

Tonight we will talk about how things have changed since we were new.

 

What comes first to mind when you heard about this topic?

How has your recovery program changed since you were new?

What is different?

What is the same?

How about meetings how have meetings changed?  

How have meetings remained the same?

 

Are the issues the same or have they changed?  

 

When you first came in, what did you want to get out of AA?

What was the first thing you worked on?

What was your primary concern?

 

Today, what are you working on?

 

What has changed in recovery over the years

What has remained the same?

 

How has technology influenced your program?

 

How has sponsorship changed?

How have sponsees changed?

How has the fellowship changed?

 

How have the courts influenced meetings?

How have drugs influenced meetings?

How has non-smoking influenced meetings?

 

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Recovered 898 – Chuck C New Pair of Glasses Part 5

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Changes – Recovered 896

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When people decide to give up an addiction, they are agreeing to make a major change to their life. The benefits of such a dramatic alteration of course can be wonderful, but it will be a step into the unknown.

The individual needs to summon up a great deal of courage and be prepared to let go of their old habits. Once the individual becomes sober it does not mean the process of change is complete.

It continues indefinitely. Anyone who builds a successful life away from addiction will constantly face changes and challenges. It is part of what makes their life away from addiction so wonderful.

First to mind?

When you were new, what was the main thing you had to change?
What was standing in the way of change?
What recovery tool helped?
What did not help?

What was the first thing you changes in recovery?
What was the hardest thing you have changed?

How did your sponsor help?
How did prayer help?
How did meetings help?

What are you trying to change today?
What is in the way?
Why is it difficult for you?

What do you hope to change in the future?
Why are you waiting?
When will you know it’s time?

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Tim

Mike

Mike from FLA
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Alex from Austin
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Bonte from Sri lanka
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Mike from Walled Lake
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Josh

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Recovered 897 – Chuck C New Pair of Glasses Part 4

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Recovered 895 – Chuck C New Pair of Glasses Part 3

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