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Guilt and Shame

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Tuesday Night, the Recovery Topic is “Guilt and Shame.”
Many addicts start feeling more and more guilty as they reach the late stages of recovery. As mental clarity returns, the reality of the mistakes you’ve made become clear. Knowing all the struggles your family and friends went through to get you into treatment can cause addicts to feel a lot of shame. They don’t want you to feel shame; they want to feel better. The following are some tips for avoiding crippling shame during recovery.
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Service – Recovered 951

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Addiction specialists agree that service to others might be the key to his staying sober. In recent years, a growing body of research has found that helping others brings measurable physical and psychological benefits to the helper.  Studies have shown that addicts who help others, even in small ways—such as calling others to remind them about meetings or making coffee—can significantly improve their chances of staying sober and avoiding relapse, among adults and adolescents alike.

The 2020 International Convention of Alcoholics Anonymous will be held July 2–5, 2020 in Detroit, Michigan with the theme “Love and Tolerance is our Code.” A.A. members and guests from around the world will celebrate A.A.’s 85th year at this event with big meetings held Friday night, Saturday night and Sunday morning in the Ford Field Stadium. Other meetings, scheduled or informal, will take place throughout the weekend in the COBO Center in downtown Detroit.  https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/international-convention-2020

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Tonight, that is our topic…Service

 

What first comes to mind when you hear the word service?

Do you first think of something you do or something you receive?

 

When you were new, how did service work for you?

What service did you receive?

What service did you do and what was it?

How did doing service help your sobriety?

 

What kinds of service have you done?

 

Has your sponsor ever volunteered you for something? What?

Have you ever volunteered something for a sponsee?  What?

 

Why do you think service work helps you feel better?

Is service and your spirituality connected?  Explain?

Service can be healing.  How?

What is the most unique service you ever did?

What are you doing now?

 

What would you say to the new person about Service?

 

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Service Work – Recovered 950

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Addiction specialists agree that service to others might be the key to his staying sober. In recent years, a growing body of research has found that helping others brings measurable physical and psychological benefits to the helper.  Studies have shown that addicts who help others, even in small ways—such as calling others to remind them about meetings or making coffee—can significantly improve their chances of staying sober and avoiding relapse, among adults and adolescents alike.

 

Tonight, that is our topic…Service

 

What first comes to mind when you hear the word service?

Do you first think of something you do or something you receive?

 

When you were new, how did service work for you?

What service did you receive?

What service did you do and what was it?

How did doing service help your sobriety?

 

What kinds of service have you done?

 

Has your sponsor ever volunteered you for something? What?

Have you ever volunteered something for a sponsee?  What?

 

Why do you think service work helps you feel better?

Is service and your spirituality connected?  Explain?

Service can be healing.  How?

What is the most unique service you ever did?

What are you doing now?

 

What would you say to the new person about Service?

The 2020 International Convention of Alcoholics Anonymous will be held July 2–5, 2020 in Detroit, Michigan with the theme “Love and Tolerance is our Code.” A.A. members and guests from around the world will celebrate A.A.’s 85th year at this event with big meetings held Friday night, Saturday night and Sunday morning in the Ford Field Stadium. Other meetings, scheduled or informal, will take place throughout the weekend in the COBO Center in downtown Detroit.  https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/international-convention-2020

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We Are Back -Recovered 948

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The 2020 International Convention of Alcoholics Anonymous will be held July 2–5, 2020 in Detroit, Michigan with the theme “Love and Tolerance is our Code.” A.A. members and guests from around the world will celebrate A.A.’s 85th year at this event with big meetings held Friday night, Saturday night and Sunday morning in the Ford Field Stadium. Other meetings, scheduled or informal, will take place throughout the weekend in the COBO Center in downtown Detroit.  https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/international-convention-2020

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Interview with Jason S. Dawn Farm – Recovered on the Road 947

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The 2020 International Convention of Alcoholics Anonymous will be held July 2–5, 2020 in Detroit, Michigan with the theme “Love and Tolerance is our Code.” A.A. members and guests from around the world will celebrate A.A.’s 85th year at this event with big meetings held Friday night, Saturday night and Sunday morning in the Ford Field Stadium. Other meetings, scheduled or informal, will take place throughout the weekend in the COBO Center in downtown Detroit.  https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/international-convention-2020

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Popsicle Sticks – Recovered 946

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The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit.

If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you!

Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com

To get on our 2020 International Convention Google group

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2020 International Convention of Alcoholics Anonymous – Recovered on the Road 942

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The 2020 International Convention of Alcoholics Anonymous will be held July 2–5, 2020 in Detroit, Michigan with the theme “Love and Tolerance is our Code.” A.A. members and guests from around the world will celebrate A.A.’s 85th year at this event with big meetings held Friday night, Saturday night and Sunday morning in the Ford Field Stadium. Other meetings, scheduled or informal, will take place throughout the weekend in the COBO Center in downtown Detroit.  https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/international-convention-2020

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Detachment Versus Abandonment – Recovered 944

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In some 12 step programs, they practice detachment with love. This is way for an individual to cope with living with someone with an addiction who does not want help. But when does detachment go too far. When does detachment become abandonment?

First thoughts?

What is detachment to you?
Have you ever practiced it?
What were the circumstances?
How was the outcome?

Have you had to detach in early sobriety?
Detach from who?
Detach from what?
Was it hard?
How did it work it out?

Have you ever been detached?
How did it feel?
Did you understand that you were being detached?
Was it explained?
Did this make you feel abandoned?

What is the difference between detachment and abandonment?
At what point is detachment actually abandonment?

What is abandonment?
Have you ever abandoned anyone?

My childhood friend Jeff

Why?
What was the outcome?

Have you ever been abandoned?
What was the circumstance and what was the outcome?

Andrew?
At first yes
No he was in just too much pain
It had nothing to do with me

What would you say to the new person about Detachment Versus Abandonment?

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Having Enough in Recovery – Recovered 943

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So many of us have a mindset that thinks we’re missing out. We don’t have as much as other people have, we don’t have as much money as we’d like, we don’t have as much time as we’d like, we don’t get as much sleep as we’d like, we don’t get as many lucky breaks as we’d like, and the list goes on.

 

Tonight, we talk about enough and how it may be the key to happiness.

 

First thoughts on having enough in recovery.

 

For me, instant gratification is king, it can be difficult for me to be content with ‘enough’

Most of the time, I don’t even know what it is.

Have you struggled with knowing when enough is enough?

Is enough a decision?

 

Being good enough isn’t about being the best,

it’s about identifying our strengths and desires,

and allowing ourselves to be satisfied with the outcome.

What are some of your strengths?

How do you know they are your strengths?

Do you work on them?

How does this bring you happiness?

 

For me, Jealousy sometimes drives my desire for more

How about you, how do you deal with jealousy?

 

When it comes to material things,

I have heard that people can make a choice to have enough.

They can choose to live with enough.

Your thoughts on deciding to live with enough.

How is this done?

 

When you stop chasing material things or relationships, then you can start to appreciate how wonderful the place you are now is.

What about smelling the roses along the path of life?

 

No matter how cool or blessed you think you are, you’ll be tested. So arm yourself; stay open to change and keep building yourself an emotional toolkit that will see you through the tough times.

How do difficult times and the concept of enough relate?

 

Living with enough can nurture happiness.  Even with yourself. Are you enough?

 

Are You are good enough.  

Nurture your mind, body and spirit  – and take yourself out for some fun, sometimes. Yours is the only relationship you can’t leave. Treat it with kindness and respect.

Are you enough?

 

Are You are talented enough.

Don’t tell yourself you’re not imaginative, just make stuff. It’ll distract you from you problems, ground you in the present and give you a sense of accomplishment.

Are you talented enough?

 

Are You are fun enough.

Good relationships are the foundation of happiness. Bad ones will tear you apart and wreck your self-worth. So invest in those that matter; build a handful that will last — that will grow and change with you — and let the toxic ones go. They only serve to limit or hurt you.

Are you fun enough?

 

Are You are kind enough.

Be kind and generous but say no, sometimes.

 

Are You are attractive enough.

Your body is just a body. So don’t get all obsessed with it.

 

Are You are important enough.

Take your time. Create a life that means something or leaves something.

 

What would you say to the new person about enough?

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Surrender – Recovered 941

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    Few of us welcome the idea of surrendering to anyone or anything. We view surrender as a sign of weakness – a coward’s action in the face of a stronger and overpowering enemy. We’ve been taught to believe that the strong, brave, and courageous among us fight to defeat their enemies, so we resist surrendering for fear of seeing ourselves – or being seen by others – as weak.

    The act of surrender in recovery from addiction is a willingness to give up the fight against a perceived threat and to feel whatever our addictions have allowed us not to feel – fear, pain of the unknown, and lack of certainty. Addiction is often driven by a desire – for more happiness or less pain – that has become self-destructive and out of control. The disease of addiction continues to progress in a fruitless journey of avoidance, regardless of the consequences. By continuing to use, the fear of facing ourselves and the struggle associated with abstinence pushes recovery into some imaginary time in the future.

    Surrender is the foundation and ground upon which recovery is built. Recovery begins with surrender since without it there is little possibility for change. It is the platform on which we build new, changed, and sober lives.

    Before program, what did you think of the concept of surrender?

    When you first came into the program,
    what did you hear about surrender?
    Slogan – surrender to win
    What were your initial thoughts/feelings about surrender?
    confused
    When did you first surrender?
    First week
    What did you surrender to?
    Surrendered to my consequences

    Did you experience any anxiety when surrender was discussed as a recovery tool? Why?
    Did you experience relief when surrender was discussed as a recovery tool? Why?

    How is acceptance and surrender related?
    How are they different?

    How is being powerless related to surrender?
    Is turning your life over related to surrender?

    How is surrender and your higher power related in your program?
    How is service work and surrender related in your program?
    How is prayer related to surrender in your program?

    What do you need to surrender to today?
    I have to surrender to my path

    The persistent illusion is commonly read before meetings
    The Persistent Illusion or the beginning of Chapter 3 More About Alcoholism

    Most of us have been unwilling to admit we were real alcoholics. No person likes to think he is bodily and mentally different from his fellows. Therefore, it is not surprising that our drinking careers have been characterized by countless vain attempts to prove we could drink like other people. The idea that somehow, someday he will control and enjoy his drinking is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker. The persistence of this illusion is astonishing. Many pursue it into the gates of insanity or death.

    We learned that we had to fully concede to our innermost selves that we were alcoholics. This is the first step in recovery. The delusion that we are like other people, or presently may be, has to be smashed.

    How does this statement relate to surrender?

    What would you say to the new person about surrender?

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