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Arleen Alanon Part 2 – Recovered 1069

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So, listeners, join us at The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit. If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you!

 If you would like to get all the information regarding the Recovered Podcast at the 2020 International Convention, just email me and we will get you on our google group.

Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com

To get on our 2020 International Convention Google group.  This google group will be notified with all the Recovered Podcast Plans for the convention and will have all the information about how to find our tailgate party.  Right now, our google group has been provided with maps and general information about Detroit. Email me at mark@recoveredcast.com if you want these kinds of updates.

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Staying Busy in Recovery – Recovered 1068

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Keeping your mind occupied can keep you from thinking about your problem behaviors. Whether you choose to focus on working toward goals full time or spend time doing an activity that helps you relax, you must find balance.

Tonight, we talk about Staying Busy in Recovery

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So, listeners, join us at The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit. If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you! If you would like to get all the information regarding the Recovered Podcast at the 2020 International Convention, just email me and we will get you on our google group. Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com To get on our 2020 International Convention Google group

This google group will be notified with all the Recovered Podcast Plans for the convention and will have all the information about how to find our tailgate party.  Right now, our google group has been provided with maps and general information about Detroit. Email me at mark@recoveredcast.com if you want these kinds of updates.

The goal is to keep your mind on healthy things so your life can begin to change for the better. Addiction tends to keep our mind focused on a single thing, the actual addiction. If you can learn to refocus your mind and keep it busy in other areas than it will be easier to ignore the addiction.

What are your first thoughts on this topic?
What do you want to say to the new person about Staying Busing in recovery?

What did you enjoy doing as a kid?
Sports
Band
Scouts
Art
Music
Reading
Collecting
Pets
How did drugs and alcohol affect these activities?

When you were new, was free time a challenge?
Was free time dangerous to your program?
How did you fill your free time?
Was recovery a “hobby”?
Was recovery a “new addiction”?

How about today, how do you stay busy?
Meetings
Exercise
Social Media
Reading
Journaling
Family
Work
Music
Crafts
Automobiles
Baking/cooking
Pets
Church/Higher Power
Gardening
How does that help your program?

Are you too busy?

How do steps keep you busy?
How does your sponsor keep you busy?
How do your sponsees keep you busy?
How does your higher power keep you busy?
How does service work keep you busy?
How do 12-step calls keep you busy?

We have calls
______________________________________________________
We asked our listeners about this topic.

Now, listeners, If you would like to participate in these weekly surveys, just email me for an invite request. Email me at
mark@recoveredcast.com
And I will send you an invite to our Recoveredcast Google group. This group receives the show notes for the upcoming show. You will also receive an invite to participate in the weekly survey. You will also receive a link to call into the show so you can share you experience with the recovery topic. This group helps us prepare for each week’s topic.

Again, just email for your a google group invite. Just email me at
mark@recoveredcast.com
To get involved in each week’s show prep.

We asked our listeners,
How do you stay busy in recovery?

Did you take the survey?

https://www.surveymonkey.com/analyze/8K5P7yyygTQpwUhHy8Ecg_2FPrFocjDJVnLC2ezPf5_2B8IcE9xTd4YUvfGbHS8NzWWp?ut_source=my_surveys_list

What would be your answer?
________________________________________________________

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This week Nobody

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We have three ways in which you can partner
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all around the world and
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You can become a sustaining partner
by giving on a monthly basis for one year.
As an expression of our gratitude for your donation,
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Just go to website at recoveredcast.com
And tap on the Sustaining Partners button
for more information

Thank you again
Nobody

If you have experience with
Communication

you can call right now

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Now, Let’s take calls

Sheron
Mike Fla

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________________________________________________________

What would you say to the new guy aboutStaying Busy in Recovery?

So Remember; abandon yourself to God and admit your faults. Clear away the wreckage of your past and give freely. God bless and see you next time.

Check out this episode!

Arleen Part 1 – Recovered 1067

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Our generous Recovered Podcast Community allows us to be self supporting and not rely on outside contributions.  If you would like to join us, there are three ways.

  1. Episode Sponsorship  We will recognize you by first name only at the top, mid, and end of the episode.  Any amount will qualify.
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Call Us Now  http://recoveredcast.com/speakpipe

So, listeners, join us at The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit. If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you!

 If you would like to get all the information regarding the Recovered Podcast at the 2020 International Convention, just email me and we will get you on our google group.

Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com

To get on our 2020 International Convention Google group.  This google group will be notified with all the Recovered Podcast Plans for the convention and will have all the information about how to find our tailgate party.  Right now, our google group has been provided with maps and general information about Detroit. Email me at mark@recoveredcast.com if you want these kinds of updates.

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Triggers – Recovered 1066

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One of the long-standing obstacles to recovery is the emotional and physical cues that we experience, which make us feel like using alcohol and drugs. These cues are most commonly referred to as triggers, and they can manifest differently for different people. For some, seeing old friends and loved ones is enough to trigger wanting a drink; for others, the stress of performing well at work or school elicits the old feelings of using performance-enhancing substances. Whatever the cause, triggers should be expected—and like many other facets of recovery, expecting and planning for them is the best course of action for success.

Tonight, we talk about Triggers

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So, listeners, join us at The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit. If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you! If you would like to get all the information regarding the Recovered Podcast at the 2020 International Convention, just email me and we will get you on our google group. Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com To get on our 2020 International Convention Google group

This google group will be notified with all the Recovered Podcast Plans for the convention and will have all the information about how to find our tailgate party.  Right now, our google group has been provided with maps and general information about Detroit. Email me at mark@recoveredcast.com if you want these kinds of updates.

Identifying a trigger is not always easy as they can sometimes have no direct somatic effect (a physical effect on your body). However, there are several common types of symptoms brought on by an addiction trigger. These symptoms are broken down into categories—physical and psychological symptoms—and knowing about both can help you protect your recovery.

First thoughts?
What are triggers?

When you were new, what triggered you to use?
Exposure to the substance itself.
Seeing other people using.
Contact with people, places, times of day, and situations commonly associated with using (such as drinking buddies, parties, and bars, getting home from work, weekends).
Particular types of emotions (such as frustration, fatigue, feeling stressed out); even positive emotions (elation, excitement, feelings of accomplishment) can be triggering.
Physical feelings (feeling sick, shaky, tense).
HALT: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired
Emotions
Stress
Over-confidence
Mental or physical illness
Social isolation
Sex and relationships
Getting a promotion or new job
Reminiscing about or glamorising past drug use
Social situations or places where drugs are available

What did it feel like?
Did you ever succumb?
What happened?
Relapse is a process, what does this mean?
How did you fight off triggers early in recovery?
What part of the program helped (sponsor, fellowship, meetings, prayer, slogans, etc.)?

Today, what triggers you to bad behavior?
How do you fight off?

What are some other methods?
Engage in some form of distracting activity.
Talk it through.
Challenge and change your thoughts.

 

What would you say to the new person about Triggers?

We have calls
______________________________________________________
We asked our listeners about this topic.

Now, listeners, If you would like to participate in these weekly surveys, just email me for an invite request. Email me at
mark@recoveredcast.com
And I will send you an invite to our Recoveredcast Google group. This group receives the show notes for the upcoming show. You will also receive an invite to participate in the weekly survey. You will also receive a link to call into the show so you can share you experience with the recovery topic. This group helps us prepare for each week’s topic.

Again, just email for your a google group invite. Just email me at
mark@recoveredcast.com
To get involved in each week’s show prep.

We asked our listeners,
How do you most commonly communicate with your recovery friends?

Did you take the survey?

https://www.surveymonkey.com/analyze/BDdvjmFu1FS7CNwVOWuEnAzlYjTZsZX7il2R3vMuJiQYoxmKjjxUNQ6fyn0_2BCydc?ut_source=my_surveys_list

What would be your answer?
________________________________________________________

We have calls –
Our phone call segment is brought to you by our
Recovered Podcast Sustaining Partners

____________________________________________________________

Our sustaining recovered podcast partners are a big part
in our self supporting movement.

This week Nobody

became a Sustaining Partners
Thank you Nobody

We have three ways in which you can partner
with us in this 12-step mission to spread the good news
all around the world and
keep us online.

You can become a sustaining partner
by giving on a monthly basis for one year.
As an expression of our gratitude for your donation,
we will send you Recovered podcast merch.
Merch Like Recovered Podcast Tee Shirts, mugs.

Just go to website at recoveredcast.com
And tap on the Sustaining Partners button
for more information

Thank you again
Nobody

If you have experience with
Communication

you can call right now

PLAY THE JINGLE – file in google drive
________________________________________________________

Now, Let’s take calls

Nicole
Mike
Alex

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________________________________________________________

What would you say to the new guy aboutTriggers?

So Remember; abandon yourself to God and admit your faults. Clear away the wreckage of your past and give freely. God bless and see you next time.

Check out this episode!

Steve V on Step 1 – Recovered 1062

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Our generous Recovered Podcast Community allows us to be self supporting and not rely on outside contributions.  If you would like to join us, there are three ways.

  1. Episode Sponsorship  We will recognize you by first name only at the top, mid, and end of the episode.  Any amount will qualify.
  2. Premium Membership  This is the single most effective way to support the show.  Watch the video in its entirety and learn how to become Premium
  3. Sustaining Partners  We have three ways in which you can participate in this 12-step mission We invite you to be a partner is this work.

Call Us Now  http://recoveredcast.com/speakpipe

So, listeners, join us at The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit. If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you!

 If you would like to get all the information regarding the Recovered Podcast at the 2020 International Convention, just email me and we will get you on our google group.

Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com

To get on our 2020 International Convention Google group.  This google group will be notified with all the Recovered Podcast Plans for the convention and will have all the information about how to find our tailgate party.  Right now, our google group has been provided with maps and general information about Detroit. Email me at mark@recoveredcast.com if you want these kinds of updates.

For the latest 2020 IC information, click

https://recoveredcast.com/2020-convention/

Check out this episode!

Popsicle Sticks – Recovered 1059

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Popsicle Sticks is not really a topic but rather a style of meeting here in Southeast Michigan. Tonight, this show will be presented in the form of a popsicle stick meeting.

A popsicle stick meeting is a meeting where we let our higher power determine what we need to share on. Here in the studio, we have a can full of popsicle sticks. Each stick has a recovery topic written on it. We will take turns, randomly picking a stick and then sharing on that topic that was chosen.

Tonight, we do popsicle sticks

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So, listeners, join us at The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit. If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you! If you would like to get all the information regarding the Recovered Podcast at the 2020 International Convention, just email me and we will get you on our google group. Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com To get on our 2020 International Convention Google group

This google group will be notified with all the Recovered Podcast Plans for the convention and will have all the information about how to find our tailgate party.  Right now, our google group has been provided with maps and general information about Detroit. Email me at mark@recoveredcast.com if you want these kinds of updates.

I first experienced “Popsicle Sticks” at the Thursday Midnight night meeting at the Northwest Alano Club in Wayne Michigan. At first I hated it, then I got used to it, then it became my favorite meeting.

Flash forward to 2008ish when the PC Alano club started in Canton, Michigan. On September 28, 2008, the Canton Candlelight meeting started at the PC Alano Club. Soon after that, this style of meeting started on Thursday nights. This style of meeting continues at Canton Candlelight every Thursday at 10:00 pm and in led by are own Matt O.

Here’s how it goes.
Pick a stick
Announce the topic to all
Share on the topic
Keep the stick
Pass the can

What would you say to the new person about Popsicle Sticks?

We have calls
______________________________________________________
We asked our listeners about this topic.

Now, listeners, If you would like to participate in these weekly surveys, just email me for an invite request. Email me at
mark@recoveredcast.com
And I will send you an invite to our Recoveredcast Google group. This group receives the show notes for the upcoming show. You will also receive an invite to participate in the weekly survey. You will also receive a link to call into the show so you can share you experience with the recovery topic. This group helps us prepare for each week’s topic.

Again, just email for your a google group invite. Just email me at
mark@recoveredcast.com
To get involved in each week’s show prep.

We asked our listeners,
What step are you working?

Did you take the survey?

https://www.surveymonkey.com/analyze/fQgrENh2wVYiy0otnLRF0a2vpxnNmAX1xg6XhLEs1wFiXizo5SRKZBrvYpGWp4on?ut_source=my_surveys_list

What would be your answer?
________________________________________________________

We have calls –
Our phone call segment is brought to you by our
Recovered Podcast Sustaining Partners

____________________________________________________________

Our sustaining recovered podcast partners are a big part
in our self supporting movement.

This week Ramilya

became a Sustaining Partners
Thank you Ramilya

We have three ways in which you can partner
with us in this 12-step mission to spread the good news
all around the world and
keep us online.

You can become a sustaining partner
by giving on a monthly basis for one year.
As an expression of our gratitude for your donation,
we will send you Recovered podcast merch.
Merch Like Recovered Podcast Tee Shirts, mugs.

Just go to website at recoveredcast.com
And tap on the Sustaining Partners button
for more information

Thank you again
Ramilya

If you have experience with
Popsicle Sticks

you can call right now

PLAY THE JINGLE – file in google drive
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Now, Let’s take calls

 

________________________________________________________

What would you say to the new guy about Popsicle Sticks?

So Remember; abandon yourself to God and admit your faults. Clear away the wreckage of your past and give freely. God bless and see you next time.

Check out this episode!

Mari G on the Traditions – Recovered 1060

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If you want Recovered Podcast to come to you so you can share your story with us, please reach out to mark@recoveredcast.com and let me know.  We would love to come to your roundup, your conference, your event, your open talk….whatever, we want to carry your message to the person who still suffers.

Our generous Recovered Podcast Community allows us to be self supporting and not rely on outside contributions.  If you would like to join us, there are three ways.

  1. Episode Sponsorship  We will recognize you by first name only at the top, mid, and end of the episode.  Any amount will qualify.
  2. Premium Membership  This is the single most effective way to support the show.  Watch the video in its entirety and learn how to become Premium
  3. Sustaining Partners  We have three ways in which you can participate in this 12-step mission We invite you to be a partner is this work.

Call Us Now  http://recoveredcast.com/speakpipe

So, listeners, join us at The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit. If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you!

 If you would like to get all the information regarding the Recovered Podcast at the 2020 International Convention, just email me and we will get you on our google group.

Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com

To get on our 2020 International Convention Google group.  This google group will be notified with all the Recovered Podcast Plans for the convention and will have all the information about how to find our tailgate party.  Right now, our google group has been provided with maps and general information about Detroit. Email me at mark@recoveredcast.com if you want these kinds of updates.

For the latest 2020 IC information, click

https://recoveredcast.com/2020-convention/

Check out this episode!

Communication Recovered 1061

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The disease of addiction clouded how addicts related to others. It was a disease of perception. Isolated and lost in the self; they did not know how to communicate as addicts. But, in recovery, we learn how to overcome barriers to communication. It’s like learning how to talk once again.

Recovery is a second childhood. Addicts learn how to be part of society and live with life as it stands. They do this by understanding themselves and others. Like everything else, they get good at it over time. It will be a painful, scary, and embarrassing process in the beginning. As they progress, they’ll realise like with recovery, it was all worth the effort.

Tonight, we talk about Communication

Our generous Recovered Podcast Community allows us to be self supporting and not rely on outside contributions.  If you would like to join us, there are three ways.

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  3. Sustaining Partners  We have three ways in which you can participate in this 12-step mission We invite you to be a partner is this work.

Call Us Now  http://recoveredcast.com/speakpipe

email mark@recoveredcast.com

So, listeners, join us at The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit. If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you! If you would like to get all the information regarding the Recovered Podcast at the 2020 International Convention, just email me and we will get you on our google group. Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com To get on our 2020 International Convention Google group

This google group will be notified with all the Recovered Podcast Plans for the convention and will have all the information about how to find our tailgate party.  Right now, our google group has been provided with maps and general information about Detroit. Email me at mark@recoveredcast.com if you want these kinds of updates.

As a result of active addiction, addicts have lost the ability to communicate with others. A great majority of relapses have resulted from poor communication skills. Addicts have been unable to relate to their loved ones in mutual understanding.

First Thoughts?

What is good communication to you?
What is bad communication?
What gets in the way of good communication?
Why is communication important in your program?

Before program?

How do you communicate with recovery people?
What form is most effective?
When is face to cae needed?

History of communication in AA
In 1940, about ⅓ of household had a telephone, so early AA communication was face to face.
https://www.statista.com/statistics/189959/housing-units-with-telephones-in-the-united-states-since-1920/

What are essential parts for you?
What are barriers to communication?
Low Self-Esteem
Perfectionism
Dishonesty
Lack of Boundaries
Shame
Inauthenticity / Masks
Aggression / Timidity

How can you overcome barriers?
Self-assertion
Self-compassion
Engage with others
Humility
Have empathy for others

How can you be a better listener?
What do you need to work on better communication?

Who is difficult for your to communicate with?
Why?
What can you work on?

Who is easiest to communicate with?
Why?
How can you improve?

When did you communicate poorly?
What happened?
What was your part?
What was the other person’s part?

What would you say to the new person about Communication?

We have calls
______________________________________________________
We asked our listeners about this topic.

Now, listeners, If you would like to participate in these weekly surveys, just email me for an invite request. Email me at
mark@recoveredcast.com
And I will send you an invite to our Recoveredcast Google group. This group receives the show notes for the upcoming show. You will also receive an invite to participate in the weekly survey. You will also receive a link to call into the show so you can share you experience with the recovery topic. This group helps us prepare for each week’s topic.

Again, just email for your a google group invite. Just email me at
mark@recoveredcast.com
To get involved in each week’s show prep.

We asked our listeners,
How do you most commonly communicate with your recovery friends?

Did you take the survey?

https://www.surveymonkey.com/analyze/BDdvjmFu1FS7CNwVOWuEnAzlYjTZsZX7il2R3vMuJiQYoxmKjjxUNQ6fyn0_2BCydc?ut_source=my_surveys_list

What would be your answer?
________________________________________________________

We have calls –
Our phone call segment is brought to you by our
Recovered Podcast Sustaining Partners

____________________________________________________________

Our sustaining recovered podcast partners are a big part
in our self supporting movement.

This week Nobody

became a Sustaining Partners
Thank you Nobody

We have three ways in which you can partner
with us in this 12-step mission to spread the good news
all around the world and
keep us online.

You can become a sustaining partner
by giving on a monthly basis for one year.
As an expression of our gratitude for your donation,
we will send you Recovered podcast merch.
Merch Like Recovered Podcast Tee Shirts, mugs.

Just go to website at recoveredcast.com
And tap on the Sustaining Partners button
for more information

Thank you again
Nobody

If you have experience with
Communication

you can call right now

PLAY THE JINGLE – file in google drive
________________________________________________________

Now, Let’s take calls

 

________________________________________________________

What would you say to the new guy about Communication?

So Remember; abandon yourself to God and admit your faults. Clear away the wreckage of your past and give freely. God bless and see you next time.

Check out this episode!

Communication – Gigi L

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 Listening–REALLY Listening!  (From Gigi Langer)

Listen, Connect, Care

How often have you tried to share a problem with someone who only wanted to talk about themselves? Frustrating, aye?

Unfortunately, most of us respond to our loved ones either by telling stories about our own past or offering solutions. Both types of responses prevent seeking to understand first, perhaps the most important of Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. 

NOTE: THIS HABIT OF INTERRUPTING TO TELL OUR OWN STORY OR OFFER ADVICE IS VERY HARD TO BREAK. Listening in this way does NOT mean that you can’t do this. But FIRST, you listen and paraphrase to help the person clarify the issue BEFORE asking them if they would like to hear your experience or a suggestion.

HOW TO REALLY LISTEN: When in a conversation with someone, open your heart, empty your mind, and listen. If you notice yourself thinking about your own past, refocus your attention on what he/she is saying. If you’re tempted to suggest solutions, remind yourself that actively listening is your goal.

To show your intent to understand, briefly summarize what you think you heard. When he/she replies, summarize again.

Listening in this way not only shows that you care–it also invites the person to clarify his own thoughts and feelings, often leading to helpful insights.

FOR EXAMPLE, if a friend tells you she’s worried about losing her job because her boss constantly criticizes her, tune in, breathe, and resist the urge to tell your own tale about a bad boss.

Then paraphrase her words: “It sounds like you get a lot of negative responses from him.”

Your friend replies, “Well, it’s not really criticism. It’s just that he has such high expectations and I always feel that I’m not doing well enough ”

Then you summarize (without giving advice), “Hmmm, high expectations; that’s gotta be hard! Tell, me, where do those expectations come from? ”

This reply elicits her feelings and encourages more detail, allowing both of you to explore the problem, define it (e.g, is it her own perceptions OR really her boss’s behavior?) and find positive ways to address it.

TRY IT OUT

  1. Select a friend or coworker who is easy to talk to.
  2. Ask him to begin talking about something happening in his life.
  3. Listen intently while suspending your urge to break in with your own experiences or solutions.
  4. When he stops, pause to see if he’s finished and take a moment to prepare your response. Summarize the most important parts of what he said in your own words. For example, “So, you said (fill in blank). Tell me more about that.” or “You mentioned the word (fill in blank). What does that mean to you?”

Don’t worry if you find this difficult. Most people do. Even though the habit of seeking to understand may feel artificial, you will soon find it more natural, especially when you sincerely intend to give pure, loving attention to another. 

In your everyday interactions, make a conscious effort to listen carefully to others and paraphrase what you heard. Withhold your own thoughts and reactions until you fully comprehend the other person’s position or experience.

As you listen fully, you’ll be astonished at how much you learn–and by the good will you create!