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Progress Not Perfection – Recovered 953

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When people in recovery talk about progress not perfection it does not mean that people should not be trying to be the best they can be. The point is that perfection is too high a goal and that people should aim for something slightly less ambitious.

If the individual makes an honest attempt at overcoming their character flaws they will be moving closer to perfection, but it is not likely that they will ever fully complete this journey. Humans are fallible, and the only important thing is that they try their best. By setting the more realistic goal of progress rather than perfection the individual is far more likely to achieve their aim.

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What came first to mind when you learned that this week’s topic would be progress not perfection?

What did you want to get out of recovery when you were new in program?

What were some of your early recovery goals?

What does progress not perfection mean to you today?

What is wrong with striving for perfection?

How is humility an important part of this recovery slogan?

How can a new person know they are making progress in their recovery program?

If looking at the past is the way to know if you are making recovery progress, does “living one day at a time” hinder knowledge of making progress?

When you were new in recovery, how did you celebrate recovery successes?
What were some typical early recovery successes?

How can recovery tokens help with progress in recovery?
How has giving open talks helped with making progress in recovery?

How can service work help in making progresses?
How does prayer help with making progress?

How does having a sponsor help with making progress in recovery?
How does having a sponsee help with making progress?

What step in particular has helped you with recovery?
Can rushing steps be a hindrance to recovery?

What does Practice makes progress mean to you?

How do you deal with Failure in recovery?
Has failure ever been a good thing for you in recovery?
How can a relapse help in making progress?
Are mistakes necessary?

What does being stuck in recovery mean to you?
What part of the program helped you make the most recovery progress?

Have you ever been stuck?
How did you get unstuck?
What accelerates your progress in recovery?

What would you say to the new person about Progress?

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Guilt and Shame – Recovered 952

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Many addicts start feeling more and more guilty as they reach the late stages of recovery. As mental clarity returns, the reality of the mistakes you’ve made become clear. Knowing all the struggles your family and friends went through to get you into treatment can cause addicts to feel a lot of shame. They don’t want you to feel shame; they want to feel better. The following are some tips for avoiding crippling shame during recovery.

The 2020 International Convention of Alcoholics Anonymous will be held July 2–5, 2020 in Detroit, Michigan with the theme “Love and Tolerance is our Code.” A.A. members and guests from around the world will celebrate A.A.’s 85th year at this event with big meetings held Friday night, Saturday night and Sunday morning in the Ford Field Stadium. Other meetings, scheduled or informal, will take place throughout the weekend in the COBO Center in downtown Detroit.  https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/international-convention-2020

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First thoughts?

What is the difference between guilt and shame?
Guilt is an internal emotion. It’s the general unpleasantness that you feel when you believe you have done something wrong, regardless of other circumstances. Shame is what you feel when people notice what you’re doing, decide it’s wrong — or just stupid — and look down on you. While guilt is associated with morality, shame is not.

What was it like handling negative emotion early in program?
Why is it important to “feel the feelings?”

What guilt and shame did you come into program with?
Did you share these things at meetings?
What part of the program helped?
Were other people ashamed of your behavior before program?
How did you know?
How did you cope with this early in program?
How did you forgive yourself?
How can empathy help you forgive yourself?
Talk about service work here…

Have you ever been ashamed of yourself since program?
What character defect was in play that lead to this behavior?
How did you handle it?
How do you change your actions?

Gult is an emotion that can be helpful or it can be toxic.
How can you tell the difference?

How can steps 8 and 9 help?
How can prayer help?
How can the fellowship help?
How can service work help?

What would you say to the new person about Guilt and Shame?

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Guilt and Shame

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Tuesday Night, the Recovery Topic is “Guilt and Shame.”
Many addicts start feeling more and more guilty as they reach the late stages of recovery. As mental clarity returns, the reality of the mistakes you’ve made become clear. Knowing all the struggles your family and friends went through to get you into treatment can cause addicts to feel a lot of shame. They don’t want you to feel shame; they want to feel better. The following are some tips for avoiding crippling shame during recovery.
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Did you come into program with guilt and shame?
How did the program help?
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Service – Recovered 951

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Addiction specialists agree that service to others might be the key to his staying sober. In recent years, a growing body of research has found that helping others brings measurable physical and psychological benefits to the helper.  Studies have shown that addicts who help others, even in small ways—such as calling others to remind them about meetings or making coffee—can significantly improve their chances of staying sober and avoiding relapse, among adults and adolescents alike.

The 2020 International Convention of Alcoholics Anonymous will be held July 2–5, 2020 in Detroit, Michigan with the theme “Love and Tolerance is our Code.” A.A. members and guests from around the world will celebrate A.A.’s 85th year at this event with big meetings held Friday night, Saturday night and Sunday morning in the Ford Field Stadium. Other meetings, scheduled or informal, will take place throughout the weekend in the COBO Center in downtown Detroit.  https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/international-convention-2020

If you want Recovered Podcast to come to you so you can share your story with us, please reach out to mark@recoveredcast.com and let me know.  We would love to come to your roundup, your conference, your event, your open talk….whatever, we want to carry your message to the person who still suffers.

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Tonight, that is our topic…Service

 

What first comes to mind when you hear the word service?

Do you first think of something you do or something you receive?

 

When you were new, how did service work for you?

What service did you receive?

What service did you do and what was it?

How did doing service help your sobriety?

 

What kinds of service have you done?

 

Has your sponsor ever volunteered you for something? What?

Have you ever volunteered something for a sponsee?  What?

 

Why do you think service work helps you feel better?

Is service and your spirituality connected?  Explain?

Service can be healing.  How?

What is the most unique service you ever did?

What are you doing now?

 

What would you say to the new person about Service?

 

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Service Work – Recovered 950

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Addiction specialists agree that service to others might be the key to his staying sober. In recent years, a growing body of research has found that helping others brings measurable physical and psychological benefits to the helper.  Studies have shown that addicts who help others, even in small ways—such as calling others to remind them about meetings or making coffee—can significantly improve their chances of staying sober and avoiding relapse, among adults and adolescents alike.

 

Tonight, that is our topic…Service

 

What first comes to mind when you hear the word service?

Do you first think of something you do or something you receive?

 

When you were new, how did service work for you?

What service did you receive?

What service did you do and what was it?

How did doing service help your sobriety?

 

What kinds of service have you done?

 

Has your sponsor ever volunteered you for something? What?

Have you ever volunteered something for a sponsee?  What?

 

Why do you think service work helps you feel better?

Is service and your spirituality connected?  Explain?

Service can be healing.  How?

What is the most unique service you ever did?

What are you doing now?

 

What would you say to the new person about Service?

The 2020 International Convention of Alcoholics Anonymous will be held July 2–5, 2020 in Detroit, Michigan with the theme “Love and Tolerance is our Code.” A.A. members and guests from around the world will celebrate A.A.’s 85th year at this event with big meetings held Friday night, Saturday night and Sunday morning in the Ford Field Stadium. Other meetings, scheduled or informal, will take place throughout the weekend in the COBO Center in downtown Detroit.  https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/international-convention-2020

If you want Recovered Podcast to come to you so you can share your story with us, please reach out to mark@recoveredcast.com and let me know.  We would love to come to your roundup, your conference, your event, your open talk….whatever, we want to carry your message to the person who still suffers.

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We Are Back -Recovered 948

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The 2020 International Convention of Alcoholics Anonymous will be held July 2–5, 2020 in Detroit, Michigan with the theme “Love and Tolerance is our Code.” A.A. members and guests from around the world will celebrate A.A.’s 85th year at this event with big meetings held Friday night, Saturday night and Sunday morning in the Ford Field Stadium. Other meetings, scheduled or informal, will take place throughout the weekend in the COBO Center in downtown Detroit.  https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/international-convention-2020

If you want Recovered Podcast to come to you so you can share your story with us, please reach out to mark@recoveredcast.com and let me know.  We would love to come to your roundup, your conference, your event, your open talk….whatever, we want to carry your message to the person who still suffers.

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Interview with Jason S. Dawn Farm – Recovered on the Road 947

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The 2020 International Convention of Alcoholics Anonymous will be held July 2–5, 2020 in Detroit, Michigan with the theme “Love and Tolerance is our Code.” A.A. members and guests from around the world will celebrate A.A.’s 85th year at this event with big meetings held Friday night, Saturday night and Sunday morning in the Ford Field Stadium. Other meetings, scheduled or informal, will take place throughout the weekend in the COBO Center in downtown Detroit.  https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/international-convention-2020

If you want Recovered Podcast to come to you so you can share your story with us, please reach out to mark@recoveredcast.com and let me know.  We would love to come to your roundup, your conference, your event, your open talk….whatever, we want to carry your message to the person who still suffers.

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Popsicle Sticks – Recovered 946

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If you want Recovered Podcast to come to you so you can share your story with us, please reach out and let me know.  We would love to come to your roundup, your conference, your event, your open talk….whatever, we want to carry your message to the person who still suffers.

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The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit.

If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you!

Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com

To get on our 2020 International Convention Google group

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2020 International Convention of Alcoholics Anonymous – Recovered on the Road 942

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The 2020 International Convention of Alcoholics Anonymous will be held July 2–5, 2020 in Detroit, Michigan with the theme “Love and Tolerance is our Code.” A.A. members and guests from around the world will celebrate A.A.’s 85th year at this event with big meetings held Friday night, Saturday night and Sunday morning in the Ford Field Stadium. Other meetings, scheduled or informal, will take place throughout the weekend in the COBO Center in downtown Detroit.  https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/international-convention-2020

If you want Recovered Podcast to come to you so you can share your story with us, please reach out to mark@recoveredcast.com and let me know.  We would love to come to your roundup, your conference, your event, your open talk….whatever, we want to carry your message to the person who still suffers.

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Detachment Versus Abandonment – Recovered 944

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In some 12 step programs, they practice detachment with love. This is way for an individual to cope with living with someone with an addiction who does not want help. But when does detachment go too far. When does detachment become abandonment?

First thoughts?

What is detachment to you?
Have you ever practiced it?
What were the circumstances?
How was the outcome?

Have you had to detach in early sobriety?
Detach from who?
Detach from what?
Was it hard?
How did it work it out?

Have you ever been detached?
How did it feel?
Did you understand that you were being detached?
Was it explained?
Did this make you feel abandoned?

What is the difference between detachment and abandonment?
At what point is detachment actually abandonment?

What is abandonment?
Have you ever abandoned anyone?

My childhood friend Jeff

Why?
What was the outcome?

Have you ever been abandoned?
What was the circumstance and what was the outcome?

Andrew?
At first yes
No he was in just too much pain
It had nothing to do with me

What would you say to the new person about Detachment Versus Abandonment?

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