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Detachment – Recovered 1081

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Because of the COVID-19 virus, the regular studio version of the podcast has been cancelled.  But tonight, Anna and I discussed the topic of Detachment.

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For friends and family of a person dealing with alcohol or drug addiction, detachment can be a difficult concept to grasp. In the context of the Al-Anon program, “detach with love” is the idea that the family has to let go of their loved one’s problem. It gives you permission to let them experience any consequences associated with their drinking or drug use and focus on your own health and well-being.

The stress and exhaustion associated with caring for someone with an addiction can be overwhelming. It may lead to anxiety, depression, and unhealthy behaviors or unsafe living conditions for your family.

Detachment does not mean you stop loving the person and it doesn’t mean physically leaving (unless you feel the need). Instead, it demonstrates that you don’t like or approve of their behavior. It is stepping back from all the problems associated with addiction and stopping any attempts to solve them. You still care, but it is best for everyone involved if you take care of yourself first.

What is codependency?

What does taking care of oneself mean to you?
As a parent, sometimes this feels like being irresponsible as a parent.
How do we know when parenting end and codependency begins

Some Tips:

How do you Avoid the suffering caused by someone else’s -actions?
What does this mean to you?
Do drugs or alcohol need to be involved?
Don’t allow yourself to be abused or misused during recovery.
How do you know if there is abuse?
What is abuse?
Practical tips
Avoid doing things for them that they can do.
How do you determine these “things” they can and cannot do?
Don’t use manipulation to change their behaviors.
How do you know if you are using manipulation?
Don’t cover up their mistakes.
How do shame and guilt influence this behavior?
Avoid creating or preventing a crisis, especially if it’s inevitable and may be the wake-up call they need.
Fear is a motivator for me

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Changes – Recovered 1080

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Because of the COVID-19 virus, the regular studio version of the podcast has been cancelled.  But Anna and I discussed an article from http://psychologytoday.com

on this subject of Navigating the Quarantine .

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Navigating the Quarantine – Recovered 1076

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Because of the COVID-19 virus, the regular studio version of the podcast has been cancelled.  But Anna and I discussed an article from http://psychologytoday.com

on this subject of Navigating the Quarantine .

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So, listeners, join us at The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit. If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you! If you would like to get all the information regarding the Recovered Podcast at the 2020 International Convention, just email me and we will get you on our google group. Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com To get on our 2020 International Convention Google group

This google group will be notified with all the Recovered Podcast Plans for the convention and will have all the information about how to find our tailgate party.  Right now, our google group has been provided with maps and general information about Detroit. Email me at mark@recoveredcast.com if you want these kinds of updates.

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Sandy B Part 3 – Recovered 1079

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Sandy B Part 2 – Recovered 1078

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Sandy B Part 1 – Recovered 1077

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Staying Connected – Recovered 1075

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Because of the COVID-19 virus, the regular studio version of the podcast has been cancelled.  But Anna and I, along with our cat, Yukon Cornelius, gathered around the fireplace and reflected on the topic Staying Connected.

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So, listeners, join us at The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit. If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you! If you would like to get all the information regarding the Recovered Podcast at the 2020 International Convention, just email me and we will get you on our google group. Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com To get on our 2020 International Convention Google group

This google group will be notified with all the Recovered Podcast Plans for the convention and will have all the information about how to find our tailgate party.  Right now, our google group has been provided with maps and general information about Detroit. Email me at mark@recoveredcast.com if you want these kinds of updates.

 

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Expectations – Recovered 1074

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Because of the COVID-19 virus, the regular studio version of the podcast has been cancelled.  But Anna and I, along with our cat, Yukon Cornelius, gathered around the fireplace and reflected on the topic Expectations.

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So, listeners, join us at The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit. If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you! If you would like to get all the information regarding the Recovered Podcast at the 2020 International Convention, just email me and we will get you on our google group. Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com To get on our 2020 International Convention Google group

This google group will be notified with all the Recovered Podcast Plans for the convention and will have all the information about how to find our tailgate party.  Right now, our google group has been provided with maps and general information about Detroit. Email me at mark@recoveredcast.com if you want these kinds of updates.

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Old Behaviors – Recovered 1073

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Think about what comes to mind when you think of patterns or behaviors. Likely it means doing something repetitive, over and over again, often without much thought given to the action. But when you’re in recovery, you can recognize that certain behaviors and attitudes have gotten you into trouble in the past. You learn in recovery that old behaviors from your addictive past have been destructive and that you can make important changes in your new life in sobriety.

Tonight, we talk about Old Behaviors

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So, listeners, join us at The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit. If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you! If you would like to get all the information regarding the Recovered Podcast at the 2020 International Convention, just email me and we will get you on our google group. Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com To get on our 2020 International Convention Google group

This google group will be notified with all the Recovered Podcast Plans for the convention and will have all the information about how to find our tailgate party.  Right now, our google group has been provided with maps and general information about Detroit. Email me at mark@recoveredcast.com if you want these kinds of updates.

We are reluctant to change. It may be more that we’re afraid of change, so starting something new is impossible. The fact that others tell us that change is beneficial does little to stop the fear of change. Overcoming the fear is a unique and personal process that we have to go through on our own. This does not mean we cannot rely on the advice and encouragement of others. Indeed, it is in listening to stories that we may be motivated to start making important changes in our own life. So, recognizing patterns is first and foremost the initial step that people in recovery need to take.

What comes first to mind when you hear the expression “Old Behaviors”?
What are some of your old behaviors that were self destructive?

When you were new, how did you learn you needed to change?
What did you need to change to stay sober?
What part of the program helped you identify old behaviors?
What part of the program helped you change old behaviors into new ones?

What stops you from changing self destructive attitudes?
Some examples may be:
Stubbornness: needing to always be right
People pleasing: at the cost of your own happiness or health
Obsessing about perfection
Blaming: inability to accept responsibility for your own mistakes
Procrastination
Inability or refusing to ask for help
Fear of taking healthy risks
Negative self talk
Self guilt and feeling undeserving of good things in life

For you, when an old behavior is recognized, what do you do that is healthy for you?

What is most likely to trigger old behaviors today?
What are your triggers?
How do you replace negative habits?

Do you think about your old self and feel guilt and remorse?
What is stinking thinking?
How do you fight these emotions?

Have you changed an old behavior into an asset?

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To get involved in each week’s show prep.

We asked our listeners,
What Old Behaviors do you struggle with?

Did you take the survey?

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What would you say to the new guy about Old Behaviors?

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Setting Boundaries – Recovered 1072

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Your issues with boundaries come from your past. You may have grown up where boundaries were strict and harsh. This could lead to an inability to express your feelings or to keep everyone at arm’s length. Having no boundaries will lead to you and others being enmeshed. When this happens, your roles are interchangeable and blurred and you will not establish your sense of identity. As you get older, your relationships mirror those of the past and history begins to repeat itself. As you fall into the same patterns, you increase your risk of experiencing depression or anxiety and may fall into drugs and alcohol to help cope.

Tonight, we talk about setting boundaries

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So, listeners, join us at The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit. If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you! If you would like to get all the information regarding the Recovered Podcast at the 2020 International Convention, just email me and we will get you on our google group. Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com To get on our 2020 International Convention Google group

This google group will be notified with all the Recovered Podcast Plans for the convention and will have all the information about how to find our tailgate party.  Right now, our google group has been provided with maps and general information about Detroit. Email me at mark@recoveredcast.com if you want these kinds of updates.

Establishing boundaries in your life is important, especially in recovery. By setting boundaries, you no longer allow others to take advantage of you and you begin to find your voice and learn how to use it. Your communication with others improves as you express your thoughts and feelings. Healthy boundaries lead to healthy relationships with people who have your best interests in mind, support and respect you and are willing to work with you. An added benefit is that you begin to establish your sense of self.

First thought?

What Are Healthy and Unhealthy Boundaries?

For you, what is a healthy boundary?
How do you know when a boundary has been crossed?
For you, what family of origin enmeshments do you struggle with?
For you what are healthy boundaries you have developed in recovery and how do you develop these?

How do you know the difference between healthy and unhealthy boundaries ?

For you, what are some unhealthy boundaries you have developed before program?

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Here are some possible examples

Telling someone else how to think or feel
Sacrificing your personal values and beliefs to please someone else
Forcing your advice or beliefs on others and pressuring them to follow your advice or think the same
Allowing someone else to define you and dictate your actions
Taking responsibility for someone else’s feelings

For you what are healthy boundaries you have developed in recovery and why?

Here are some examples
Encouraging sharing feelings and thoughts
Honoring your personal values and beliefs even if others may not agree with them
Respecting others
Taking responsibility for all that you do or say
Taking full ownership and responsibility in defining yourself

Today, when are you most vulnerable and allow unhealthy boundaries/
How can the program help?
Steps
Sponsor
Sponsee
Service work
Meetings
prayer

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We asked our listeners about this topic.

Now, listeners, If you would like to participate in these weekly surveys, just email me for an invite request. Email me at
mark@recoveredcast.com
And I will send you an invite to our Recoveredcast Google group. This group receives the show notes for the upcoming show. You will also receive an invite to participate in the weekly survey. You will also receive a link to call into the show so you can share you experience with the recovery topic. This group helps us prepare for each week’s topic.

Again, just email for your a google group invite. Just email me at
mark@recoveredcast.com
To get involved in each week’s show prep.

We asked our listeners,
Who do you have a hard time maintaining boundaries with?

Did you take the survey?

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What would be your answer?
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This week Janice, Penny

became a Sustaining Partners
Thank you Janice, Penny

We have three ways in which you can partner
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all around the world and
keep us online.

You can become a sustaining partner
by giving on a monthly basis for one year.
As an expression of our gratitude for your donation,
we will send you Recovered podcast merch.
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Just go to website at recoveredcast.com
And tap on the Sustaining Partners button
for more information

Thank you again
Janice, Penny

If you have experience with
Communication

you can call right now

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Penny
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What would you say to the new guy aboutSelf Care?

So Remember; abandon yourself to God and admit your faults. Clear away the wreckage of your past and give freely. God bless and see you next time.

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