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Recovered 389 Show Notes – Gratitude

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Mark, Joe, Spencer, and Russ share their gratitude during this U.S. Holiday season of Thanksgiving. Russ and Mark both agree that Gratitude is one of the most important tools in their tool box of recovery. Joe shared that one of the first things he learned in recovery was Gratitude. Joe shared that early in his program he heard Mike O. always opened his share with the statement, “If I stay grateful, I’ll stay sober.” Joe shared that if he admits that many things are out of his control, this realization helps him to stay grateful. Joe shared that he uses pen and paper to form his gratitude list. He makes a physical list and he still has the first one he made in recovery. The things that are on that original list, he is still grateful for.

Spencer, an Al-anon, was not grateful when he first came into the program, although he heard a lot of others say they were. But now, he is grateful to be a member of Al-anon. Spencer shared his gratitude tool takes the form of a mental list. When he has difficulty falling asleep, he uses that alphabet starting with the letter A and thinks of something he is grateful for that begins with the letter A. Spencer said that he has always fallen asleep before he reaches the letter Z.

Russ shared that he also uses an alphabet approach to his gratitude list, especially when he is driving his car. Russ shared that he uses meetings to keep gratitude alive in his program. Talking and sharing helps him to stay grounded and stay grateful.

We shared that gratitude is the result of something we do. When we start to feel down during this holiday season, we have found that making a list, going to a meeting, talking to someone, always helps us to stay grateful and our spirits are lifted.

Recovered 389 – Gratitude

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Our Recovery Topic is Gratitude

Since it is the Thanksgiving holiday here in the U.S., I thought we’d take this opportunity to discuss the things we are grateful for.

Clips we will cover today include:

Video Clips include:

Jane Velez Mitchell – What if You Accidentally Take a Sip, Is it a Slip

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Recovered 389 – Gratitude Song List

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Recovered 389 Preview – Gratitude

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On Monday November 19, 2012 at 7:00 pm est, Mark, Joe, Spencer, and Russ will discuss the Recovery Topic of Gratitude.  During this season of Thanksgiving here in the U.S., we thought we’d take this opportunity to discuss the things, people, and events we are grateful for.

Please call into our voice mail system at 734-288-7510 and share what you are grateful for or ask a question regarding gratitude.  If you don’t want to use your voice, please comment on the blog or email us at and we will discuss it on Monday’s show.

Recovered 388 Show Notes – Dating in Recovery

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This week, three single guys talk about dating in recovery.  Mark talks with Joe, Aaron, and Chris about their experience, strength, and hope regarding dating in recovery.

Joe started by sharing that he was in relationship when he first came into the program.  Initially, the fact that Joe was sober helped their relationship. Unlike other women that Joe had dated before recovery, this woman didn’t drink much.  After about a year of being sober, they decided to part ways.  One of the reasons was that the fellowship took a lot of Joe’s attention.

Aaron came into the fellowship “single” and was terrified of the thought of dating in sobriety.  The main reason for this fear was that Aaron thought that everybody drank and he just didn’t want to be around drinking people early on.  After a little bit of time, Aaron realized that most people don’t drink like he used to.  The first person he dated was not in the fellowship and was a very light drinker.  Aaron didn’t think it to be appropriate or “ethical”  to date new people in the fellowship.

When Chris came into the program, Chris was married.  Initially, the program helped his marriage and she was supportive of his involvement in the fellowship.  However, Chris did stay at home with the kids for functions that included drinking when they would have gone as a couple.

Joe along with Aaron shared their reservations of dating people inside the fellowship; mainly because of their observations that it doesn’t work very well.  Joe shared about fear of dating someone who may relapse during the relationship. The panel also shared about the suggested “no relationships for a year” rule.

Alex and Russ called in.
Helen contributed with an email.

Recovered 388 – Dating in Recovery

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Our Recovery Topic is Dating in Recovery

what was it like?
what is it like now?
what is your experience?
what are some of the challenges?

Video Clips include:

Dating and Drinking

Dating Independent Woman

How to Prevent Addictions for Youth – Jane Velez Mitchell on the Fix

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Recovered 388 Preview

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This week, Joe, Aaron, and Chris will discuss dating while in recovery.  They will discuss what their initial thoughts and fears were when they first came into the program and they will discuss what it is like now.  We will also discuss dating inside and outside the fellowship and the pluses and minuses of both options.

Please call into our voice mail system at 734-288-7510 and ask a question regarding dating in recovery.  If you don’t want to use your voice, please a comment on the blog or email us at and we will discuss it on Thursday’s show.

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Recovered 387 – First Time in Recovery

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Our Recovery Topic is Doing This for the First Time in Recovery

The first New Year’s Eve Party
The First Christmas
The first Wedding
The first funeral

What was it like
What were the triggers
We will talk about it.

Tips for the Holidays
Tip #1: Be sure to get enough rest.
Tip #2: Be selective about what invitations you accept.
Tip #3: What’s in your glass only matters to you.
Tip #4: Have back-up plans ready.
Tip #5: Go late and leave early
Tip #6: Spend your time with fellow 12-step members.
Tip #7: Give thanks for your sober days.
ip #8: If you feel you might stumble, call your sponsor.
Tip #9: Keep busy
Tip #10: Take time to enrich your spirit.

Video Clips include:

Best Movie on Addiction?

Dr. Drew Rehab Trailer

baby Boomers More Likely to Suffer Alcohol Harm Than Young

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Music For Recovered 387

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The Topic on Thursday is “Doing Things for the First Time in Recovery. Therefore, the music selected has a similar theme.

TV Show Elementary

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I’m thinking about starting a fan podcast for the TV show Elementary, a show about Sherlock Holmes, an addict, and his sober coach, Dr. Joan Watson.  I’ve watched every show and like the murder mystery with the hero being an addict in recovery.

The fan podcast would be about the CBS TV Show Elementary. Elementary which stars Jonny Lee Miller as detective Sherlock Holmes, a recovery addict, and Lucy Liu as Dr. Joan Watson, Sherlock’s sober companion, in a modern-day drama about a crime-solving duo that cracks the NYPD’s most impossible cases.

I’m trying to get my wife to co-host this show with me.  I would look at the show from the Sherlock or addict point of view, while Anna would take the Joan or co-dependent view. The show would start with an overall reaction to the episode.  Then a detailed synopsis would follow.  I would think we would have a separate segment about how recovery is portrayed and how realistic it is, whether it’s myth or not. I’m building the website, I’m working on the album artwork, looking into domain names and planning the show name.

I would have to purchase the shows I don’t have saved on my DVR.  We would start with the Pilot show and work our way through Season 1.  I think there may be good response, especially from the recovery community, since there doesn’t appear to be an active fan podcast on this show.