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Who’s going to the 2020 International Convention?

So, listeners, join us at The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit.  If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you!

If you would like to get all the information regarding the Recovered Podcast at the 2020 International Convention, just email me and we will get you on our google group.

Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com

This google group will be notified with all the Recovered Podcast Plans for the convention and will have all the information about how to find our tailgate party.  Right now, our google group has been provided with maps and general information about Detroit. 

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Who’s going to the 2020 International Convention?

So, listeners, join us at The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit.  If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you!

If you would like to get all the information regarding the Recovered Podcast at the 2020 International Convention, just email me and we will get you on our google group.

Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com

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We all know about the “other shoe” and how we’re supposed to wait for it to drop.  There are two basic assumptions in this expression. The first is that the drop of the second shoe is inevitable.  The other assumption is that the drop of the second shoe is usually something bad.

For us alcoholics, it is common that we periodically experience a sense of foreboding that positive situations will not last. In our experiences as alcoholics, bad things can and do happen. In tangible ways, in ways that have been a result of our own behavior.

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For Al-Anons, the trauma of active alcoholism real and horrific. Fear and anxiety can be common companiangs for the Al-Anon as they look to their future with a hypothetical relapse of a sober loved as part of that future.

Tonight, we talk about it. We talk about waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Let’s address the mail first,
Let’s turn to you first Anna, as a person who lived through my alcoholism and early recovery.
What are your first thoughts about this email?
How did you plan for your future when I was new?
What about the impact of my active alcoholism on our marriage especially when I was new?
How about now when you think about the negative impact my drinking had on the family?

Ok Luiz, coming to you
Any thoughts on the email or the discussion that Anna and I just had?

What does waiting for the other shoe to drop men to you?
Have you experienced it?
How does it manifest for you?
What character defects are working when this happens?
How can the program help?

Do you live with dread?
What was it like when you were new?
What helped then?

What is it about being an alcoholic that makes us vulnerable?
What makes the al-anon vulnerable to this syndrome?

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We asked our listeners about this topic.

We asked,
“What do you think has contributed to your experiencing “waiting for the other shoe to drop” syndrome?”

Did you take the survey?

https://www.surveymonkey.com/analyze/7imA53axNzGUPk8Ya9JfNVWaFzFMUbjiNBRYKPnwRAwE_2FUyuDq1XnkSDh70eHpB8

What would be your answer?
________________________________________________________

Do you think your drinking behavior has created this syndrome in others?
What can you do about this?
What part of the program can help?

What things, what trauma, has occurred in your life that may have contributed to you “waiting for the other shoe?”
How do you cope?

We are about solutions here at the Recovered Podcast. So let’s talk about some suggestions that I have found.

First up. Try being Present and being mindful.
How does being mindful help?
How does being present help?
What slogan comes to mind here?

2. Next suggestion is to “Try savoring life”.
That is, meditate on positive emotions or events. For example, I can take several minutes, and relive my whole vacation to ireland. Town by town, remembering the names of each town,, the sites, the smells, the spiritual experience, the positive life affirming conversations with really awesome people…
Why do you think this may be of help for some?

3. Introduce some logic to your thoughts.
Sometimes our thoughts can run away from us, going down a path that we know isn’t logical or helpful.

In the case of anticipating something negative, I’ve found that I can best stop the thoughts with this simple reasoning: “Yes, it is inevitable that something bad will happen at some point, but I don’t know when or where. So, I might as well enjoy what I’m feeling now so later I won’t regret not having enjoyed that time when things were going well.”

4. Practice gratitude.
Being aware of what we have in our lives orients us to the present. We can always find something or someone to appreciate, and in showing this appreciation we gain an increased awareness of its beauty.

5. Spend time with people who also like to live fully.

What would you say to the new person about waiting for the other shoe to drop?

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The 12-step recovery programs include service as a major component. Members are expected to take on responsibilities in the group and to help newer members travel their own path to recovery. The reasons why this would be important are numerous. To begin with, helping other people tends to take the attention off of yourself, something that can be of enormous benefit for a recovering addict. When you assist the other person in making progress and receive gratitude for your efforts, this reward can give you an enormous boost in your own happiness and sense of well-being.

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As you progress through your own recovery, it is easy to lose sight of how far you have come and even to become critical of yourself when you feel cravings. By working to help another person who is headed down the same road as you are, you get to look back and see where you started.

We will start with you Clyde,
Where do you want to start on this topic, helping others?

When you were new, did others help you?
How?
Did you wonder why they did that?

Who was the first person your helped on purpose?
What happened?
What did you learn?
How did that help your recovery?

Have you ever used this principle of the program for someone outside the fellowship?
Who?
What happened?
How did that help your recovery?

Why does helping others help you?
How does it strengthen your program?
How does it affect your fellowship?
How does it affect your relationship with your higher power?

Why is this such a spiritual principle?

Are you ever resistant to helping?
Why?
What is the character defect that is in effect when this happens?
How do you get over it?

What part of the program helps?
Steps
Fellowship
Prayer
Service work
Sponsor
Sponsee
Slogans
etc

What would you say to the new guy who about Helping Others?

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Who’s going to the 2020 International Convention?

So, listeners, join us at The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit.  If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you!

If you would like to get all the information regarding the Recovered Podcast at the 2020 International Convention, just email me and we will get you on our google group.

Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com

This google group will be notified with all the Recovered Podcast Plans for the convention and will have all the information about how to find our tailgate party.  Right now, our google group has been provided with maps and general information about Detroit. 

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Hurricanes. Fires. Shootings. The headlines are filled with tragedies.

No one wants to get caught up in an emergency situation or tragedy, but good people sometimes go through bad things or are exposed to unexpected crisis situations.

Some situations are national calamities, but a crisis can result from any difficult situation or loss. And people in recovery are especially vulnerable in times of trouble.

That’s why it is important to be vigilant about self-care and the best way to start
is to have a recovery disaster preparedness plan in place for relapse prevention.

“Tragedies hit people in recovery harder than others,”\
One of the reasons for this is that
recovery makes people very open and empathic and they pick up easily on the pain of others and it can trigger their own trauma. “
Preparing ahead of time to deal with horrible news can keep you balanced when it feels like the world is falling apart,”

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What comes first to mind, where do you want to start?

What crisis were you faced with when you were new in program?
What part of program helped?

Have you ever relapsed? Was this a crisis? What helped?

What other crisis have you dealt with

Are you dealing with a crisis today?

Here are some ways to put relapse prevention in place and protect your emotional health.

1. Breathe and relax.

2. Have sober support.

3. Allow for emotional help.

4. Practice processing difficult emotions.

5. Have healthy distractions.

6. Gratitude

Is self inflicted crisis different than one that is caused by external forces?

Do you know somebody outside of program dealing with difficult situations?
How are they dealing with it?
Is it any different?

How has our disease affected the way you react to crisis?
How has the program helped?

What part of the program helps?
Steps
Fellowship
Prayer
Service work
Sponsor
Sponsee
Slogans
etc

What would you say to the new guy who about crisis?

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Who’s going to the 2020 International Convention?

So, listeners, join us at The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit.  If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you!

If you would like to get all the information regarding the Recovered Podcast at the 2020 International Convention, just email me and we will get you on our google group.

Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com

This google group will be notified with all the Recovered Podcast Plans for the convention and will have all the information about how to find our tailgate party.  Right now, our google group has been provided with maps and general information about Detroit. 

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Perfectionists hold themselves to rigid standards. This often inhibits healthy behaviors resulting in no action because of fear that they’ll mess up. It’s not surprising that perfectionists often procrastinate. Perfectionists might also impose their rigid standards on others and character defects such as anger results when these individuals don’t measure up.

It is not surprising that perfectionists often suffer from anxiety, depression, and eating disorders. Moreover, those who have perfectionistic tendencies often struggle with balance, acceptance, self-care, and self-compassion …the list can go on.

Perfectionism and substance use often go together. Perfectionism can also make recovery much harder, since as with other things, perfectionists typically expect too much too soon and are unforgiving of their own mistakes. Perfectionism is a difficult problem to overcome, but with persistent effort, you can loosen its grip on you.

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What comes first to mind? Where do you want to start?

What does perfectionism mean to you?
Have you suffered from being a perfectionist? How?
How did you learn this behavior? Was this learned behavior?
Has perfectionism ever “worked” for you?

How did perfectionism hinder your early recovery?
How does it affect you today?

Perfectionists have unrealistic goals and standards.
How do you know if your goals or standards are unrealistic?
How does being competitive effect this condition?

Perfectionists usually have an all or nothing attitude.
How can his hinder recovery?
Surrender to win
Must admit total defeat to take step 1
________________________________________________________
We asked our listeners about this topic.

We asked,
“Are you a perfectionist?”

Did you take the survey?

https://www.surveymonkey.com/analyze/H8rm2Pi4NAWig98bQ2JQdLL5Up_2B8_2FrnCKFnEG_2FChhhrqRKTsGRWx7jI_2Bx3Anp6cK

What would be your answer?
________________________________________________________

Have you suffered at the hand of a perfectionist? How?
How do you cope?

In our text on page 60 right after the 12 steps appear, we read…

Many of us exclaimed, “What an order! I can’t go through with it.” Do not be discouraged. No one among us has been able to maintain anything like perfect adherence to these principles. We are not saints. The point is, that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines. The principles we have set down are guides to progress. We claim spiritual progress rather than spiritual perfection.

What does “perfect adherence to these principles” mean to you?

What does the slogan “progress not perfection” mean to you?
What program principle do you fail at?
How do you make progress in this area?

How do you deal with failure in recovery?
Give an example of a failure you had in recovery.
How did you cope?
What did you earn?

How do you know when your recovery standards have moved from admirable to unrealistic?
What is the underlying character defect when you suffer from perfectionism?

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Recently I went on vacation to Ireland. When most people think of vacationing in Ireland they think of Dublin, green landscapes, castles, pubs, Guinness stout, and Irish whiskey. This last part can be a problem for people in recovery from a substance use disorder. However, just because you are in recovery from drugs and alcohol doesn’t mean you can no longer enjoy your travels. Tonight, we talk about maintaining your sobriety while traveling. Tonight, we talk about Vacationing in Recovery.

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What comes first to mind?

What was vacationing like for you before recovery?
Did you have fun?
Where did you go?
Was was the best vacation during this time for you?
What was the worst?

What about early recovery, what were you thoughts about vacationing in early recovery?
Where did you go?
Did you avoid vacations at this time?
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What about today, how do you prepare?
What do you suggest?

How do you take your recovery with you?
What apps?
What books?
Does prayer help?
How do you stay connected?
Do you go to meetings when out of town?
What recovery tools do you take with you?

What would you say to the new person in recovery about vacationing while in recovery?

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The Spera Recovery Center provides a safe, recovery-friendly environment for detoxification, brief residential treatment, and ongoing recovery support services for individuals and families struggling with addiction.

Clients attend daily 12-step meetings and are introduced to the recovering community, as well as the philosophies and traditions of 12-step programs. Spera Counselors complete initial assessments, monitor withdrawal from alcohol and other drugs, develop treatment plans, facilitate groups, and help develop sustainable plans for continuing recovery.

Dawn Farm believes in the power of the recovering community. We rely on this community to show Spera residential first hand that they can get better.

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Anna’s Bio

Anna is the Coordinator of the Spera Recovery Center. She is responsible for the day-to-day operations of the detox center, including supervising the Spera staff, assisting with client intakes and their programs, facilitating the needs of clients at Spera in correlation with the other services offered by Dawn Farm.

Tell us more about yourself and how you came to
tell us more about

Why Spera for you?
What is special about Spera?
How does Spera and the recovering community interface?

Tell us about yourself,
how did you come to Dawn Farm?
What is Spera?
Why is Sera separate from the farm?

Tell us about the detox center?
this detox medically supervised.
Are there doctors and or nurses on staff?
Is medication used in this process?

How do you define success at Spera?

How is mental illness handled,
do you admit people with co-existing or comorbid diagnoses?
If so, how do they handle that?
And if not, what do they recommend?

Walk us through a day for a client, what does that look like?
How long is the stay?

Tell us about discharge, do you develop an action plan?
What does that look like?

Are you seeing new addiction patterns?

Do your clients go to meetings?
Who provides support to your clients?
what does a coordinator do?
What would you say to the person who is considering treatment?
What would you like to say to our audience?

Advice
What was the #1 thing that has held Spera back in working with alcoholics and addicts?
What is the best advice you ever received regarding running Spera Recovery Center?
What is something that is working in your facility today?
What is the best recovery book you have read?

Hope
What do you want to say to the new person?

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